Empathy

其實我不記得是Empathy或是Sympathy了。
大概是Empathy吧，所謂的同理，真正體會別人的處境。
覺得自己好像有點喪失了，失去想要細細鑽就別人感覺的熱情，
變得只想大筆一揮，宣判，然後給五分鐘的解藥。

很明顯，這行不通。

這是我上周做諮商後很深刻的自省。我好像變成急於評論給意見，心裡想著"你自己也說要問我意見的阿"
可是之後我卻覺得我常常講著，事情不會一夜之間改變，人們需要被了解傾聽、被鼓勵才能繼續改變成長，我卻好像沒有這樣做。

不能怪罪啾豆給我的各樣薰陶或是影響。不諱言他是一個思路清晰，博學多聞、知曉很多道理的高手，但是我學習跟他討論不同議題，學習有信心的批判思考，卻不同等於遺落面對真實的人的同理心阿。

星期二又要來了，加油。

I don't quite remember was it "empathy" or "sympathy". To think and feel in others' point of view. Put myself in others' shoes. Noticing that I seem to lose the passion of experiencing, figuring out other's feelings under their words and behaviors. I become quickly to conclude, judge and give out the quick fix.

Apparently, it doesn't work.

After last Tuesday's counseling session, I felt I became rushing into conclusion, thinking "you were the one who came in ask for suggestion." However, it is actually the opposite of what I used to say, things won't change over one night; people need to be heard and understood. After being encouraged, then they will start to change and grow.

I can't blame the influence and training from Joe. No doubt that he is a great person with clear mind and abundant knowledge. I learn to discuss different issues with him, learn to do analytical thinking. However, I should be aware of not to lose the compassion when facing a real person.

Go and be alert! Here comes another Tuesday.